I read an article this morning posted as an Op-Ed in the Los Angeles Times on the Internet by Gabrielle Union titled I cannot take Nate Parker rape allegations lightly. As a rape survivor herself, Union’s take on our rape culture is a personal thought provoking one. I will attach the link to the article below.
Two words she used in her article have stayed with me all day. Affirmative consent. In discussing the raising of her stepsons with Dwyane Wade and how they are teaching their sons to deal with specific issues, Union wrote the following:
“To that end, we are making an effort to teach our sons about affirmative consent. We explain that the onus is on them to explicitly ask if their partner consents. And we tell them that a shrug or a smile or a sigh won’t suffice. They have to hear “yes.”
I believe Wade and Union are teaching their children a powerful message. No longer are we a society that we can afford to be afraid to have open conversations with our children/grandchildren about sex. It is real. If they don’t learn at home, someone out in the world will. For our sons, until you hear “yes” do not proceed. For our daughters, unless you want to participate, do not feel pressured to do so.
Today I am thankful
- Shocked to see a tree changing to beautiful colors outside my window
- Looking forward to a content weekend
- Always nice to hear from old friends ~ Indigo Blue
affectionately yours, Laura