Gratitude 29March16 Battles Worth Fighting

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Not all battles are worth fighting. You have to weigh out the importance of the challenge presented. There are many factors to be considered. The source of the contention and the intent primarily. Resolution is a two-way street. Both sides have to be invested in the quality of the outcome.

I recently wrote about the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the agreements is to not to take things personally. Unhappy people act out in ways that have nothing to do with you. Their actions often show a growing individual making their way through life’s obstacles. Their actions say much more about them than you. Your accountability is in your response.

Lately, for me, some battles are not worth fighting. Sometimes it is best to walk away and allow people space to grow. It does not make anyone the good person or bad person. It just is.

Today I am thankful

  • Day 1480 on my Wii Fit
  • I opened my living room window to let in some warm spring air
  • My storage room is cleaned and organized .. finally

Find the calm within. Don’t let the storms around you bring you down. Choose your battles wisely

affectionately yours, Laura

** revision 24Oct13

Gratitude 28March16 Irresponsible Smokers

george-marks-woman-in-evening-dress-smoking-cigaretteI do not mind smokers. Honestly, I don’t. I am a firm believer in every person’s right to do with their body as they choose. Whatever the individual wants to put in or on it — that is their business. Where I draw my line, is when the consequence of their choices affects my world.

That line with smokers is when they choose to ignore the no smoking signs or where they chose to flick their cigarette butts. Why? Because it is my world too, and I, share what you are polluting.

If you take responsibility for the smoking of the cigarette, I feel you should go all the way and be responsible for the smoke and proper disposal of the butt. So, when I pass through a cloud of smoke or see a cigarette butt being flick out a car window or see them littered along the path I walk, it frustrates me that adults can’t take responsibility for their choices.

Today I am thankful for

  • My yellow Easter tulips are blooming
  • God bless my best friend for saving me Easter dinner leftovers
  • I spotted my first robin on my walk today

Just some food for thought .. it takes about ten years for one cigarette butt to decompose. Almost thirty percent of all cigarettes purchased end up as litter in our environment. Smoke responsibly.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 22March16 Happy Birthday, Auntie Pat!

There are few people in my life that I know, without a doubt, loved me unconditionally. My Auntie Pat was one. No matter what was going on with my parents, family dynamics or my life, she remained constant and unmoved in the way she treated me. Never one of the crowd to play the ignore game, label or judge me. Nope, she remained the same, until the end. I loved her with all of me for that.

auntie-pat1Everyone should have an Auntie like her in their life. She was the fun auntie who wore the stylish clothes, eclectic jewelry, sparkly shoes and rhinestones on her glasses. I loved her stories. I liked that as she told them, she relived them, and her laughter always came from deep within. I valued the stories she shared with me about her and my mom when they were young.

I respected that she was her own woman and didn’t follow the crowd, she was a leader. I was in awe that she embraced that “wild woman” within that reflected in her style and the way she lived her life.

Auntie loved a good time. She took St Patricks Day to a level of green that is hard to believe unless you were there to experience it. She was an amazing cook and whenever I went to visit her at their cabin; guaranteed she would send me home with a container of her spaghetti and out-of-this-world potato salad — oh, so delicious.

I used to write her and send her funny cards. I had promised my Mom before she passed I would stay in touch with her, and I did. I feel blessed to have had strong, powerful women role models in my life. Women like Auntie Pat, who, I still to this day, pray to in hard times. Women who lived life with passion embraced life loved hard and left legacy’s to be learned from.

Today I am thankful

  • On my way into the world
  • Paperwork for Dad’s taxes is done — praise God!
  • The Voice should be good tonight

Happy Birthday, Auntie Pat. I will forever miss you.

affectionately yours, Laura

revised ** 12Nov13

Gratitude 21March16 When is it a Lie?

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When is an omission of a fact a lie? If we are having a conversation, and I knowingly do not tell you a fact that is a piece of the story, am I telling you a lie? After all, I did not lie. I simply did not reveal the whole tale. I explore this because of the censorship I use in my life. That and the whole karma bus running my ass over for lying thing.

We have all been in a situation where we have declined to tell the whole story for whatever our reason. I am not saying we all should tell our innermost secrets all the time. I was just wondering, what is the line? I have people in my life I explore everything with no fear. I have people in my life I tell censored versions of my life. It’s not that I am lying, I just don’t want all of my business out on the street.

If you omit a portion of information with the intent to deceive, then by definition, a false statement made knowingly, that is a lie. It’s not in the interest of self-preservation, rather with the intent to hurt and be destructive. With that said, it is the thought behind your reasoning for not telling the whole story. It is with a positive or negative intent and only one person can answer that, you.

Today I am thankful

  • Sunshine coming through my windows
  • A good night sleep
  • I put my FitBit back on this morning 🙂

My censorship is always on the side of a cautiously protected life I live. Now the emails will begin. “What haven’t you been telling me?”

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 2March16 Our Greatest Fear

catching-a-rainbow1“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel unsure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. As we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”  Marianne Williamson

Today I am thankful

  • The sparkling of my crystals through my window
  • Feeling content and secure
  • A feeling of freedom to be myself

Wishing you a fearless and empowered day.

affectionately yours, Laura

**revised from 21October13