Gratitude 27Feb15 Friendships

“Some people come into our lives and quickly go, some stay awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. and we are never, ever the same.”

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All of the relationships in our life have a purpose. They either benefit or take away from our lives. I read an interesting article that challenged one to look at the close relationships in your life and understand the purpose in your life that relationship defines. People come into our lives for a reason, season or lifetime.

Having had some challenging friendship moments, I have found myself writing a lot about friendship. Growing and changing doesn’t make anyone right or wrong; it just means there is a change of life’s seasons for both. It does make me cognitive in a different light. If someone treats people a certain way, chances are, that is how they will treat you eventually.

Starting with the blue-eyed woman in the mirror, having good friends is nurtured by being a good friend. What is friendship to you? What makes the difference between an acquaintance or someone you allow into your personal space?

Here is my dream friendship list. Honesty without harm or hurting, trust, willingness to nurture friendship, respecting boundaries, agreeing to disagree, freedom to be oneself, comfort that is found not just in talking but silence together. I am blessed to have friendship with these values in my life.

Today I am thankful ..

  • My circle of women that keep my lifted and growing.
  • Life is just so wonderful and amazing.

I wish you friendships that help you to be a better you. It doesn’t matter whether it is a reason, season or lifetime. They all contribute and teach.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 26Feb15 Destination Anywhere

There is a private jet waiting for you. It’s destination, anywhere. Where would you go? Me? Easy. The Maldives Islands. Paradise awaits me.

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Today I am thankful ..

  • Heading to my guy
  • All is well
  • Just when you thought it was the end; it is a new beginning

Sending you enough imagination to take you anywhere you want to go!

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 25Feb15 Personal Beliefs

I happened across an article about Pope Francis this morning; what a breath of fresh air he is to the Catholic religion. He stated in a fascinating interview about gay individuals, “If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has goodwill, who am I to judge?” I am sure if my Pastor read this, this morning, he choked on his Fruit Loops.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/on-faith/pope-francis-reaches-out-to-gays-says-he-wont-judge-gay-priests/2013/07/29/e2d51bf6-f83f-11e2-a954-358d90d5d72d_story.html

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Spirituality, politics, and sexuality are challenging topics to discuss, even with the best of friends. I believe it is because those three topics define who we are. They reveal a great deal about our character, values and morals. To put those personal beliefs on display is scary.

If you are not a secure person in who you are and what you believe, you may be challenged and then how would you defend your beliefs? If you are firm in your beliefs, and who you are, you may offend someone and appear not open to additional opinions. Either way, laying out your blueprint leaves you open to being labeled, and assumptions made by others.

Today I am thankful ..

  • I live in a country where I am free to practice and state my beliefs.
  • A wonderful calm that surrounds me today.
  • Those who love me. No matter what, they love me just for me.
  • I dreamed about babies last night. I wonder who is pregnant? Hummm

I am a bible believing Christian, practicing Catholic, Democrat. Wow. What a mixture that is! I believe that people’s life choices are their business to discuss with their higher power. Whatever your belief, believe in something.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 24Feb15 Gratitude, not always easy

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To feel grateful is easy when life is cruising along. When your health is good, you love your job, and you aren’t in debt. It is when your relationship and children are amazing. In general, life is wonderful.

But it is when life is at it’s most challenging that brings growth. When it’s difficult to have gratitude is when we should be giving thanks. For when life is hardest is when we learn our life lessons. It is when our character must hold steady. When life presents, its greatest tests are the time for gratitude.

Today I am thankful ..

  • It is a challenging day that makes me dig deep to be grateful
  • It is 34 degrees — Minnesota heatwave
  • I am 2 days away from seeing people I love with all my heart ❤

One of my favorite quotes is by Martin Luther King. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” That seems to say it all.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 23Feb15 Sex and Real Life

Sex is amazing. If you connect with someone and your chemistry matches, sex can be fantastic. The feeling can bring forth desire and effects curling toes and exploding fireworks in your brain.

Sex is like any other drug. It can become addicting. It can become unhealthy when used in the wrong way. If the experience of sex becomes a vehicle to control someone or as a means to escape reality, it becomes like any other drug.

The raw fact about sex is, like any other addiction, you eventually will come down from the high. Whether you believe your penis or vagina is golden. Or you believe yourself to be a sexual genius, there will come (no pun intended) that sex ends. And you go back to the real deal of living life.

It is a reminder that sex is a small piece of the relationship puzzle. The essential elements of a healthy relationship are trust, respect and honest communication. It is those pieces of a relationship that can make for a more enhanced and healthy sexual experience.

And in the infamous words of Forrest Gump, “That’s all I have to say about that.”

Today I am thankful ..

  • I am content and at peace
  • New neighbors have a dog that is fun to watch
  • I am hoping to hang with my best friend for lunch

With the numerous articles about sex recently around the movie 50 Shades of Grey; it is important to keep the sexual experience in perspective. I don’t care what color your play room is, or what your safe word may be; reality is waiting for you when you are done.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 21Feb15 What Real Women Look Like

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Hurrah to Cindy Crawford! A picture was leaked accidentally of her at a photo shoot before being photo-shopped. Crawford is in lingerie and all of her bumps, dimples and stretch marks are clearly visible. Crawfords response to the leak? “That is what real women look like.”

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As a woman, I am constantly comparing myself to the unrealistic practice of the fashion publication and media. They portray women that are perfect to the point of unrealistic.

My saving grace is the weekly view in my gym locker room that is my reality check. I am not the only woman with dimples, rolls, stretch marks, scar’s and an apple bottom.

I have always liked Crawford and saw her as beautiful, seeing her in this new light makes me like her even more.

Today I am thankful ..

  • Time with my grandbaby, Lucy
  • My women’s craft group
  • I feel content and serene

Sadly, real women are never accurately depicted in the media. We need to look to one another for support and validation of true beauty.Don’t sell yourself short with comparisons. We are all beautiful. #truetoyourself

affectionately yours, Laura