Today’s blog is brought to you by the word “NO.”
As in “Oh, Hell no.” “No, I will not buy into your negative hype.” “No, I can’t support your “Oh, no you didn’t.” No. No. NO!
I have gotten to the place in my life that I avoid drama like the Ebola plague. At times I wish I could wear a hazmat suit to protect myself from all the bullshit. The best protection I have is the word “No.” I have retired my drama goddess tiara.
Drama is about that adrenaline rush that comes from the fight or flight human instinct. If you keep yourself busy with other people’s lives, you don’t have time to deal with your own.
Drama is a means by which unhappy people justify their lives. Some one is always doing them wrong, something in life is always unfair, their lack of planning is made into someone else’s emergency. My adopted Mama would tell me “Girl, you’re a hot mess.” I did not understand it then, I do now.
It is not that I don’t have empathy. I do. If someone is down and out or needs help, I am your girl. Each person is responsible for their life. It’s heartbreaking, really. I know the drama life story. You grew up in dysfunction, you were abused, all of life’s tragedies found their way to your doorstep.
At some point you have to accept, forgive, and move on to live your life to the fullest. I am a living breathing testament to it. I am taking a stand; I am choosing happy, content and declaring my life a drama-free zone.
Today I am thankful for ..
- My babies: Lou, Jaz, Santi and Lucy
- It’s a bad day, not a bad life.
- I am learning and growing.
- A place in my heart is still yearning. It is called hope.
Saying “No” is healthy. Putting boundaries around your world is being accountable for your own well-being. It doesn’t make anyone the good guy or the bad guy. It just means you are making different life choices.
Life is Short ~ Live it Well.
affectionately yours, Laura