Gratitude 29August14 Goddess or Doormat?

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Pablo Picasso, the famous Spanish painter, must have been a wise man. He said “There are only two kinds of women – Goddesses and Doormats. Nothing in between, just the two extremes. You revere yourself to the heights of goddess or you wallow down low for the use and abuse of others as a doormat.

I like that. I believe it covers the spectrum of a woman’s life. A woman is not just limited to how she see’s herself, but, how she allows other’s to treat her. In those two views of self is her personal definition of goddess or doormat. They are joined without the option of separation. That is why it is so important to see the value of yourself. And, you, my friend, are a goddess!

Today I am thankful for ..

  • Looking forward to a weekend with family and friends
  • Clarity. I value and embrace it.
  • My home. Within these walls is me.

Make this finally weekend of August a memorable one.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 28August14 No Resting in a Public Restroom

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I avoid public restrooms at all costs. The thought of their germ infested breeding grounds makes me shudder. When the need arises, I have perfected what I call my “hovering” stance. It is like the chair yoga position. I am low enough that nothing splashes back up, yet, high enough that I am not touching the seat.

Yesterday, was such an occasion. As I was lowering myself into my hovering position, the toilet automatically flushed and splashed my butt and thighs. I quickly stood up, used my wipes to clean up and made another attempt. Every time I got to a certain level, before I could do my business, this toilet automatically flushed. The toilet from hell!

After several attempts, almost a package of wipes and my thighs were beginning to get sore, I finally bucked up and stayed in place after the lowering into place flush. I handled my business as quickly as possible, stood up and now the toilet won’t flush!

In the mean time, I am beginning to panic because my Dad is cruising the store solo. When he goes shopping, he puts his cane into the cart and uses the cart as his support. However, at times, if he leans a little too much the cart picks up momentum and away he goes down the aisle. A crash into something is often involved to stop his roll. Not only am I dealing with the alien toilet, I am listening for a “Clean-up in aisle #6” request over the loud-speaker.

After the toilet episode, I thought screw the automated faucet, soap dispenser and hand blower. I squirted on some of my hand sanitizer from my purse and called it good enough.

Today I am thankful for ..

  • It feels like fall this morning!
  • A hike through Kaposia Park
  • A writing day. As I often say, “Ass deep in words”

Pay it forward, not just for the other person, for yourself.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 27August14 Rock Your Curves

I don’t like to shop. Especially for clothes. Mostly because almost all of the clothes are not designed to fit my body type. I am limited to the petite department unless I want to have alterations done on everything I purchase.

I flashback to my youth when Twiggy was the rage. Blond, legs a mile long, and a slim body. I look in current magazines and see the same body image being advertised. Clothes are being designed and made to cater to that body type. Yet, I look around while I people watch and very few women are genetically gifted with that body.

I am a woman of small stature. There is nothing about me that resembles the model look I just described. I am 5 feet of curves. I have breasts, hips and a belly. Even with weight loss to maintain a healthy Body Mass Index (BMI) range, those variables don’t change for me.

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I have always rocked body curves big time. Add the fact that my body is “maturing” and things have become more complicated. In the mean time, I am going to have to suck it up this fall and shop for some clothes that fit. Although, sweaters, leggings and boots are sounding more and more like a tempting alternative.

Today I am thankful for ..

  • Old Navy Sweetheart jeans
  • Yoga pants and sports bra
  • The gray around the perimeter of my world is fading

I love the Gilda Radner quote “I base my fashion taste on what does not itch.” Words to live by.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 26August14 Don’t Stop at 5, Make it a Habit

This new Facebook trend of 5 day challenges to document what you are thankful and grateful for has me amused. Don’t get me wrong, I am thrilled that people are being insightful. There are so many things in your life to appreciate and not take for granted. It’s just that for once, I was ahead of the curve. I am patiently waiting for someone to challenge me, so, I can simply supply the link to my gratitude blog site. 

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I have been writing and blogging at least three things a day on affectionately yours, Laura with a daily section titled “Today I am thankful for …” since September 2012. I began my gratitude journal as a tangible means to center myself. A written documentation that I could go back to when I needed reminding of all that is good in my life. Even when I am not online, I have a journal I write in daily. 

Giving gratitude and being thankful shouldn’t be a challenge and / or a phase. It should be an every day occurrence. Whether you write it or just say it to yourself, self-inventory of the goodness that surrounds you is beneficial in many ways. Albert Schweitzer, a great philosopher, theologian and physician who won the Nobel Prize stated the following: 

“To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.”

alwaysThere are now actual studies that support the benefits of being grateful in all areas of a person’s life. People are more optimistic, it improves their mood and the alleviation of stress leads to a healthier body. If you are one of the many taking part in the gratitude / thankful challenge, get yourself a notebook and don’t stop at 5 days. Take a few minutes out of every day to write what you are grateful for. Keep it simple. It doesn’t have to be complicated or lengthy. You will reap the benefits of a positive life change. With that said …

Today I am thankful for ..

  • The darkness is lifting, light is coming back into my world. #gratefulsurvivor
  • I have a jelly doughnut waiting for me to eat with my morning cup of coffee.
  • It was an Ovo© morning. 
  • It must be fall, I am craving a pumpkin latte.

Louis Armstrong sang it best. “Yes, I think to myself what a wonderful world. Oh, yeah.”

affectionately yours, Laura

 

Gratitude 24August14 I am a Warrior

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 “May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise, and love. It is there for each and every one of us.”                       ~ Saint Terese of Liseaux ~

Today I am thankful

I am a survivor.   #gratefulsurvivor

I am a warrior.    #warrioragainstdepression

affectionately yours, Laura 

Gratitude 23Aug14 Living His Life “My Way”

 

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Over the past month Dad has been actively planning his own funeral. Daunting as it has been to wrap my heart and head around, the reality is, next month he will be blessed to be 91 years old. My Dad has lived his life in true Frank Sinatra “My Way” style and intends to complete his life journey in the same manner.

This process has been filled with laughter and tears. No one but my Dad would negotiate the purchase of a casket as he would a car. When told there was a warranty on the casket, he asked “Who’s going to dig me up in 25 years to make sure of that?” Dad then added, “Would you give me a discount if I didn’t want the warranty?”

He is very specific on his attire. A big concern is that he is buried with his underwear on. He ask the planner “You’re not going to throw away my underwear, right?” “No, Mr. Peltier, you will be fully dressed for your walk into eternity.” At this Dad rolled his eyes and in what he thinks is his whisper voice, said “Man, is he full of shit.” Laughing, I nodded my head in agreement.

I have thanked my Dad numerous times for the gift of doing this. At 90 years old, it can’t be easy to look your morality head on and deal with what is to be. Yet, true to how he has lived his life, he has.

I have this vision of my Dad arriving in heaven. Sharp suit, open collar white shirt with his gold chain on. Shaking his dice in his right hand, a low ball glass of brandy with no ice in his left. He’ll be humming “That’s Life” as he strolls along, smiling, in search of a crap table to hang out at. I often wonder if Dad is still here because God just isn’t quite ready for his arrival, yet.

Anyone looking for me after his funeral can find me at Mancini’s. I promised Dad I would be strong for him. I didn’t promise I would be sober.

Today I am thankful for ..

  • Craft afternoon with my women friends
  • An evening with friends
  • Anticipating an upcoming event

Have a great weekend. Be sure at some point to stop and look around you. It really is a wonderful world. Pay it forward and it will return to you.

affectionately yours, Laura