I am someone who can be alone for long periods of time. It hasn’t always been that way. There have been times in my life I required the distraction of others and drama. At some point over the past few years I made the cognitive choice to find out who the woman in the mirror with blue eyes was. Strip away the layers of others labels and dig deep enough to know — this is who I am. l do not believe I could find those answers without being alone with myself.
Being alone is very different from being lonely. Being alone is a choice. It is time with yourself when solitude is a time for creativity, reflection, and a sense of calm. Let me clarify. I am not a hermit in isolation. I walk, go to the library, attend my yoga and aerobic swim classes. I go visit my friends. I just really value my time alone — it is my choice. Lonely is an emotion thrust upon you. It is an emotion of wanting companionship and lacking it or having someone or thing taken from you.
My own personal experience has taught me I can be alone and/or lonely in a crowd of people. Quite an oxymoron, don’t you think? That being alone or lonely has very little to do with other people — it’s all about what’s within you. Do I vacillate between alone and lonely? I would be lying if I said “No.” It’s human nature to want love and companionship. Knowing though that I have been “lonely” in a relationship, makes me content to be “alone” until I find the right situation for me. Life is an evolving process that requires challenging oneself. And then there is always Lacy’s Logic.
Today I am thankful for ..
- Volunteering at the library
- Time with family this weekend
- The Lily of the Valley are in bloom!
Listening to Magic by Coldplay today ..
This weekend is a federal holiday to celebrate the brave American men and women who have given their lives in the line of duty. Freedom is not free. Remember the reason for the holiday and thank a veteran in your life. If you are heading out of town, have a safe and Happy Memorial Day weekend.
affectionately yours, Laura