gratitude 28dec13 a palm tree christmas

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i am writing from the sunny, blue skies and warm weather of laughlin nevada. i must admit, i was a tad nervous about not being around the minnesota snow for christmas. i have quickly discovered that a mighty fine christmas tree can be a palm tree with some lights. during my walks i have seen some very funny christmas decorations. i saw an iron donkey with a lite wreath around his neck, a family of penguins with matching scarves, iguanas all lite up among some! quite the sight!

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via pinterest.com with added touches by llpeltier

as you know, i am a pinerest.com follower. every now and then i go through my boards and wonder “what was i thinking when i posted that?” there is a definite pattern to where you are in life by what you pin. one friend pins tons of wedding stuff — she’s engaged, another pins baby stuff for her new son, and another longtime friend pins all sorts of eclectic things! my favorite boards are my “dream” boards. my house, bucket list and “imagining myself there.” my latest is to create a 2014 board with my goals for this year … lose another size, travel somewhere, perfect my yoga tree pose, and yes, kenny 😉

today i am thankful for ..

  • the holidays are almost over – life can go back to normal pace
  • the feeling of anticipation
  • sunshine, blue skies

2014 sandwishing you all of your hearts desires ~ till the new year ~ life is short; live it well!

affectionately yours, Laura

gratitude 17thdec13 tis’ the season to be jolly

my life has become a whirlwind as i celebrate “early christmas” with those i love, sign my new lease, and prepare to head for warm weather for the holidays. while i write everyday, typing those thoughts into my trust computer to you, i have been lacking the time in this season of busyness. i anticipate your world is much the same!

today i am thankful for ..

  • those i treasure and love
  • this [                ] close to buttoning my goal jeans
  • the jolly feeling of the holidays
  • warm memories that last a lifetime

wishing you a fantastic day!

affectionately yours, Laura

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gratitude 12dec13 the give options

via facebook site "i believe in Christmas"

via facebook site “i believe in Christmas”

i logged into my computer today and was greeted with this posting — give up, give in, or give it your all. i had to laugh to myself because in most of my life situations; that is my means of processing. the thought “could i achieve this? can i get through this?” i just wrote about going through situations and not giving up. then, i think “no, i can’t. i don’t have what it takes.” and finally, it is a matter of “hell, yeah. i am going to do this!.”

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i have a quote taped to my computer monitor “what would you do if i knew you would not fail?” many days it keeps me giving it my all. you never knew if you don’t try. i have had a goal of publishing my writing. i have plastic bins filled with my journals and typed pages of writings, articles, research and stories. i talk, i don’t give it my all. it is a bucket list item waiting to be checked off, just as writing a blog online was. where i do give it my all in thought and putting a part of me into the universe. it’s kind of like that quote i saw on pinterest, no matter what kind of exercise you do; you’re ahead of someone just sitting on the couch!”

today i am thankful for ..

  • minneapolis heatwave — we are going to be in double digits today
  • my Wii age of 33
  • that by the grace of God i have abundant favor
  • a short “to do” list today
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via google search

today’s picture .. my body is in minnesota; my mind is at the beach

today i am listening to .. “james taylor at christmas” cd

wishing you the spirit and energy to always “give it your all”

affectionately yours, Laura

gratitude 10dec13 dream come true

i have been sitting here looking at a blank screen stuck on stupid. the thought occurred to me “if i could just make one of my dreams come true, what would it be?” as i do with everything, i began my research and  i googled — how do i make a dream come true. after some searching,  www.manifestyourpotential.com had my undivided attention. it isn’t a “how to” site, rather, a here are some references for you. i liked that. as to which of my dreams i would want, i am still stuck on stupid. lol. except to hear kenny’s laugh in person. that’s a given. and publish my book. and live near the ocean. and …

“our truest life is when we are in our dreams, awake”  thoreau

today i am thankful for ..

  • the pride i feel for my country in the representation at mandela’s memorial
  • rumor has it we are heading for a heatwave in the double digits soon
  • my christmas shopping will be done tomorrow
  • my well worn “until today!” book by iyanla vanzant

Imagetoday’s picture .. winter bucket list

today i am listening to .. under the christmas tree by kelly clarkson

keep warm and be safe out there fellow minnesnowtan’s.

affectionately yours, Laura

Gratitude 8Dec13 Disappointment Empowered

Man must be disappointed with the lesser things of life before he can comprehend the full value of the greater. ~ Edward G. Bulwer Lytton

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Disappointment is a bitter pill to swallow; no matter what the cause or reason. When you want or anticipate something and it doesn’t play out that way — a place inside you zings.

There are so many levels of disappointment. Yet, the basis of disappointment is the same.

It is the feeling of dissatisfaction that comes when dreams and wishes of expectations or hopes do not manifest.

My weakness is my expectations of how I want things to be. Key word being “I.” That part of me that forgets people are not mind readers to accommodate my vision. When things don’t go as I planned or thought they should go — disappointment comes creeping.

While I am wasting my time juggling the balls of sad, upset, and poor me, the world goes on.

The quote I began this blog with is from an article that was posted this fall on salon.com. It had a great article on how to deal with the disappointment that I bookmarked for further reference. Its premise was not like some other articles on how not to be disappointed, rather, it focused on how you cope with being disappointed.

This statement from the article stood out to me. “Learning to deal with your disappointments constructively can make you a stronger person in the end.” I had not really ever given much thought in terms of turning what had disappointed me from a negative to a positive.

When you think about it from this standpoint — disappointment always precedes success.

Well, unless you are superwoman, and from a very reliable source, I was told even Superwoman puts on her tights backward some days.

So, today I felt disappointment. I let myself wallow in the sad of it for a few heartbeats. Then, I made myself think of something to be grateful for in the situation.

Once, I identified a positive, it helped greatly.

I think of women I admire; Helen Keller, Eleanor Roosevelt, Maya Angelou, and Marilyn Monroe (yes, Marilyn) to name a few. The above women experienced disappoint on so many levels repeatedly and yet, found their way to many more moments of success. it’s not that I expect disappointment to magically disappear, I just want to learn to put the odds of success in my favor.

today i am thankful

  • My bestie’s cooking .. if we bottled it we would make a fortune
  • A productive afternoon
  • The re-connection with relatives that means so much to me
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today’s picture .. how i am feeling today ..

today i am listening to .. comcast cable r&b soul music channel 409. right now luther vandross is singing every year, every christmas.

remember when i wrote that about 2 weeks into winter, i would be wanting summer? i am so there. here’s to wishing minneapolis gets a heatwave in the single digits this week!

affectionately yours, Laura

gratitude 5dec13 the male species

“true love is friendship set on fire”

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as a woman, with age and experience i look at men differently. over the years i went through a variety of men — bad boys, pretty boys, geek, straight, gay and all colors of the rainbow. what i learned was and came to discover that despite all their packaging, it isn’t worth much without the character to match. if you can’t talk to me out of bed, chances are you probably won’t be a “fun” in bed talker either.

my best friend married her one and only love. i enjoy being around them. they are a couple in a healthy relationship who work hard to keep the fires burning. too often, people forget and take for granted that relationships take time and energy. without those ingredients you cannot continue to grow and evolve. after 30+ years of being together, they still have the magic. it drives me to being the “master of my domain” when over at their house with all the pheromones that they emit to each other. ❤

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i have been looking at couples to discover what healthy looks, feels and acts like. coming from dysfunction and not breaking its cycle has kept me settling for less of a man than i deserve. because i was exposed to sexuality at such a young age, i learned to use it in unhealthy ways. i never put any value in the act. it was a distraction to an unhappy life, a connection with another even if for that brief sexual moment. the concept of the difference of making love and fucking was not discernible in my way of thinking.

i no longer believe in “just sex.” the act in and of itself is intimate and leaves you bare, literally and figuratively. the connection of willing partners leaves a “cosmic” connection. you carry a part of the others karma with you. there is a transfer of self when two are connected. think about it, at that moment of orgasm, you lose your damn mind filter and your body takes over. no games — raw and real.

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i don’t care how good the sex is, he could have a dick plated in gold, there must be a connection beyond sex. you eventually will come down from the euphoria and have to step back into the real world. that is what i am focused on. i want a partner who can stimulate my brain before my body. marilyn monroe once said “if you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.” that’s me at this time in my life. humor is number three in my top three of what i look for in a partner. retrospectively following; secure within himself, a communicator and has a sense of humor.

it bothers me when someone assumes sex will be an end result of a date. that sex is a given. that touching my breast and lady parts are alright without asking. gone is the time of courting and kissing. i like to make out till my lips are swollen. i find increased passion in anticipation. seeing healthy relationships in motion, encourages me to stay true to what i want and deserve. make love to my brain and my body will follow. the couples around me having me setting a high bar for the next relationship. in the mean time — i have learned to appreciate myself and buy my own flowers.

today i am thankful for ..

  • the gift that will allow me some financial freedom
  • getting down to what i want and deserve
  • accomplished a lot today
  • my fortune plant is rocken’ and growing
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today’s picture .. tucked away on a snowy day

today on my ipod .. all of me by john legend .. “cause all of me loves all of you”

i like the thought of soul mates. the connection that zaps you, you feel a shift in your world. it is tangible. like anything good in life, it requires work and commitment. here’s wishing all of us, the love that is out there waiting for us.

affectionately yours, Laura

gratitude 4dec13 december favorite things

as i begin writing this, al jarreau and kathleen battle’s version of the christmas song “my favorite things” is playing in my brain. my holiday celebration is in full swing as i got out my christmas music, movies and slowly putting out my christmas trinkets.

 http://youtu.be/iQwzaNOyXQE

 now, on to my list of favorite things for december ..

  •  martha stewart quick dry bath towels: one thing i often don’t indulge in is my bath towels. that is until the edges are frayed and they are thread bare and faded. i discovered these towels and they are wonderful! they easily live up to their name and dry you quickly. a nice size at 27″x52″ and come in a rainbow of colors. i buy mine at macy’s when they are on sale. they are regularly $12, now on sale for $7.99 before additional discounts.
  • method cleaning products: i have slowly eliminated any other brand of cleaners except this one. the product line makes cleaning an easier job. the bonus — they are not only made from naturally derived, great smelling and biodegradable ingredients. the products lasts a long time and don’t require massive amounts to get the job done. i use the all
    purpose, glass, furniture polish and daily shower cleaner (hooked on this one). i didn’t like their dish soap, i guess i will always be a dawn woman. i buy mine at target, pricing ranges from $2.89-$3.79. i always wait for them to go on sale to stock up and coupons are always on target coupon site.
  • bath & body works sparkling pink champagne hand soap: oh my, i wish i could drink this stuff, it smells so good. like the rest of bath & body hand soaps — it is anti-bacterial and light foam. i really like the easy pump that doesn’t drip and the quantity of soap that one pump delivers is just enough. you don’t have to rinse your hands forever and it doesn’t leave that icky residue left over. regularly priced at $5.50, for the holidays it is 5/$15 and yes, i always use a coupon too!
  • last vegas: maybe it’s my age, but, this movie touched me. so much of it i thought “oh, i get that!” it is well cast with a group of talented men. each fits the given role in looks, mannerisms and swagger. cinematography was great, as was the excellent choice of music for the soundtrack. i laughed, i cried, i related to the story line. i want to see it a second time on the big screen. i always go the woodbury 10 theater. $5 afternoon matinee.

today i am thankful for ..

  • a home snow day
  • my list of “to do’s” is short
  • my snowman flannel sheet on my bed
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today’s picture .. i want to gather my circle of women here to bond, eat, and drink ..

today i am listening to .. al jarreau tenderness cd

tis the season to not forget the real reason for the season. as a christian, i embrace the ultimate gift given to me that can compare to no other. pay it forward. someone somewhere needs to be given the gift of hope.

affectionately yours, Laura